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THE BEGINNING OF EVERYTHING
Each of us is born vulnerable and exposed when we arrive in this world (Earth). We are vulnerable beings (traumas / wounds or disorders that leave a mark or imprint on our 💛)
Why are we born vulnerable?
Instead the 9 months of pregnancy during which the baby develops, we still don't have our psychological boundaries and protections against vulnerability fully adapted.
And we are not only psychologically vulnerable, but we are also physically vulnerable.
What do we need when we arrive here?
"Each of us has the right to have parents who may not be perfect, but who are aware of our physical and emotional integrity, parents who care about protecting our well-being.
What aspects harm the child and what consequences does it bring?
The:
Repression of their curiosity, confidence, affection, joy, and play.
Provoking intense sounds that alter their sensitivity.
Not allowing them to learn.
These bring as a consequence, causing a psychological absence of the caregiver. What does this mean? Absence of parents who guide the child in their exploration route; this affects their resources that provide self-healing for the individual and transmit a trauma to the child:
"FEAR OF BEING ABANDONED"
THE TRAUMA
This term derives from Latin, meaning wound. This occurs when a spontaneous event overwhelms a person's mechanisms. That is, when the autonomous return system becomes disproportionate, traumatic experiences are imprinted in our organism and feelings, emotions, and emotions disintegrate.
If this imbalance causes serious damage to emotional integrity, then why are we often not aware of these?
Why are we not aware of our wounds?
We, as wounded children, are rarely able to remember what we've lived through. A scientific explanation for this could be because a wound imprinted or carried from many years ago remains as a Traumatic Amnesia. What does this mean?
"It causes a loss of memory of what happened"
Consequences
Anxiety.
Depression.
Mental disorders such as PTSD.
Eating disorders.
Difficulties in relating to others.
Irrational fears.
Addictions.
Violence.
Although trauma causes all these damages to a large group of people, it's important to clarify that experiencing traumas is an inevitable existence. The support received strongly impacts our relationships both positively and negatively.
Impacts on the Vulnerability of Being
Neglect (material and emotional abandonment) affects the emotional organization with which the brain works)
Chronic Stress (can cause loss of neural tissue, difficulty in learning and acquiring skills, toxic flooding in the brain)
Painful Experiences that can cause overstress / difficulty in remembering positive experiences.
Affective Deficiencies (disorganize the prefrontal lobes) (problems with reflection)
Subtle Wound: not setting boundaries is a way of creating a wound in the child, as it demonstrates parental irresponsibility.
"FOCUS EXERCISE"
"Connect with your inner child"
(You need a photo from when you were about 1 year old)
Before starting, it is important that you breathe deeply. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. You should feel your diaphragm inflate, when you are ready close your eyes.
After being completely relaxed, open your eyes, place your catufunto in front of you and observe that child for two minutes; and while you do so, declare the following affirmations to yourself:
You are capable of everything.
You are worthy of being worthy of love.
You are capable of sustaining this difficult experience and stage for you.
It is not bad to be sad, in fact no emotion is bad.
I trust in you, I trust that you can carry your experience in a healthy way.
Accept your limitations and develop your potential.
“If you want, you can express other messages that arise spontaneously”
Perceive your emotions/feelings with this question: How did you feel? (be clear, express the sensations, feelings or emotions that you felt)
What do we want to achieve with this exercise?
“Make it easier for your child to recognize what he feels is right and what is wrong”
THERE ARE 2 OPTIONS
Embrace what we live / Fight with it
In order for the child to be able to experience and know the world, he must find support or guidance through the communication of the following messages:
What is wrong with you?
What do you need?
How do you feel?
This will help the child to be able to recognize his importance and dignity!
Research Source
APA: Martín, J.G. (2023). Aprende a cuidar de tu niño interior (1 ed.). Barcelona, España: DIANA
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